Your Questions, My Answers ~ INTRODUCTION
say to me: "May I ask you a question?",
and I respond: "Certainly, you may ask whatever
you like, but the answers are mine."
This book contains questions that people
have asked me. I do not know if they will feel satisfied
with my answers, but would prefer it if they were
not; I would be more pleased if they were stimulated
to find their own answers, and make their own decisions,
as the answers of others are second-hand. If my words
provoke disagreement, that might also be good, as
people must also think about what they disagree with.
When we ask questions, we often have our
own answers in mind—partly formed, at least—and
are looking for confirmation; it is like a person
needing surgery going to more than one doctor for
a second or a third opinion before submitting to an
If we know how to ask our questions, if
we think about them, and formulate them carefully,
we might find the answers contained within them.
It is my intention, therefore, not to provide
definitive or final conclusions, but more to turn
people back to themselves—to hold a mirror up
to them and say: "Maybe this is what you are
looking for". My answers are only possibilities,
and are not necessarily more valid than your own.
YOUR QUESTIONS, MY ANSWERS is a joint-effort;
without your questions, there would be none of my
answers. This illustrates how, by ourselves, we are
nothing and nobody; ‘I’ exist only because
of ‘you’. So, let me thank you for helping
me write this book.